We can imagine our ideal summer holiday next year; we can imagine ourselves looking incredible in a swimsuit, lounging around in the sun with a cool drink, surrounded by laughter. We can visualise ourselves looking our best and living our best lives. But if visualisation is so easy, why can’t the majority of us imagine our lives in ten, twenty or thirty years time? Why can we plan a holiday next year, but not plan for the rest of our lives?

Let us discuss the victim mentality and how victimisation plays a huge, determinantal role in how most people relate to themselves. This is a critical discussion which I intend to handle delicately. Today, as we know, ‘victim’ has become a politically loaded word.

People get angry when I tell them they can change their mental health. They tell me that they were born to be depressed, anxious or OCD. They tell me their PTSD can never be treated, that their childhood set them up to be depressed forever and that their anxiety attacks will never go away, no matter how much medication and treatment they get.