How to Let Reality ‘Just Be’

Have you ever noticed that as human beings, we each have a fascinating ability to wrap our minds around anything and fit whatever we perceive into our unique version of reality?

Material reality is simply the world that surrounds us. Some aspects of our material reality we can reach and touch (like an iPhone, set of headphones or computer tablet), and other aspects of our material reality we cannot reach or touch (like the sun, moon or stars).
All aspects of our material reality are measurable, tangible and experienceable through our sense of perception. Our perception permits us to observe, feel, hear the world around us. Material reality is the solidified layer of association we have to the world outside of our physical body.
Reality is what we perceive to be real, and what we see to be real is what we believe and understand to be true. What we think and understand to be true is based upon our thoughts and judgements. What we perceive is often determined by what we’re looking for and our expectations.
Have you ever considered whether ‘time’ is a real entity or not? People who understand the fundamental laws of physics, appreciate that the differentiation between yesterday, today, and tomorrow is nothing more than a steadfast illusion. Everything we can imagine is present to us.
Limitations and constraints always surround the nature of our reality; however, the world of creative imagination is boundless and unlimited by nature.

Your Expectations vs Reality

It’s not the reality of the world we live in that disappoints many people, but rather, people become disturbed when the world doesn’t meet their expectations. What occurs in the world is the reality in actuality, but what we believe should happen is just our individualistic fantasies and ideals. Therefore, people are disturbed not by material reality, but by their projections and expectations of an expected reality not being met.
What we expect from our reality and look out for (in things, people, products and services) usually depends upon what we imagine. What we believe depends heavily upon what we perceive as our reality. What we see as our reality defines what we assume.
What we assume to be accurate and correct gives us a foundational basis for our future decision making and the general attitude we take toward our own lives and life in general.

“Reality certainly leaves a lot to the imagination.”

– John Lennon
Whatever opinions we sanction in our mind and support with repetitive consideration and emotion will ultimately become a new sense of reality for us. Truth is simply that which, when we cease thinking about it, doesn’t disappear or go away.

“Since we cannot change our reality, let us change the lenses through which we view and experience our reality.”

– Nikos Kazantzakis
Many people travel through life doing their utmost to alter the world, change people, break trends and create new ones, but regrettably, none of us can modify reality.
Life is a series of physical and uncontrollable transitions. Don’t strive to oppose these transitions, as doing so will only generate grief and unnecessary stress.
Learn to become OK with reality just being ‘reality’. Peace tends to enter our lives when we allow our daily events to move ahead in whatever direction they need to.
Kain Ramsay
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As an established teacher of personal and professional growth principles, and a champion of mental well-being, Kain Ramsay is regarded as one of the world’s foremost thought leaders of modern applied psychology.