10 Feb How To Let Go of a Grudge
Are you still angry at someone for what they did to you years ago: an unkind parent, a colleague who bullied you or a friend who backstabbed you? Everyone holds negatives feelings towards someone or something. The question is, who is your grudge hurting more: you or them?
Holding Grudges from the Past
It’s easy to harbour negative emotions. Negative emotions lie in negative memories and negative perceptions. There will be people who you feel angry, frustrated, upset or hurt by, but you can’t remember or work out why you feel this way. Or there will be places, images, objects and pictures which will bring about a bad taste in your mouth, make your heart beat faster or cheeks burn up.
The negative emotions you experience from holding onto a grudge are stress responses. Stress responses can be life-saving when a threat is imminent, but ancient threats are not conducive to your survival or mental wellbeing.
“The grudge you hold on to is like a hot coal that you intend to throw at someone, only you’re the one who gets burned.”– Gautama Buddha
A Healthier Perspective