How Do You Perceive Yourself?

What we perceive to be accurate and what is real are rarely the same thing. Our perception of reality can be extremely different from reality itself.

I recently had a conversation with a young man who believed he was inadequate and that his relationships were doomed to failure for the rest of his life. He arrived at this judgment in response to not qualifying for a hookup with a young lady with whom he’d only had two brief dates.
Our perception of what’s accurate determines what we perceive our reality as being. How we think, feel, act and behave remains based on what ideas we assume to be valid.

The Danger of Making Assumptions

Aside from correcting the over generalised hypotheses that people make of themselves sometimes, there’s little we can do to influence those people who are more attached to the extraordinary ideas that run through their minds – than sensible, honest and gathered feedback.
Many people waste hours responding to the extreme assumptions they make of themselves than the gentle voice of wisdom that’s only heard when they put they self-defeating judgements and wrong impressions aside.
Material reality, for many, is what we assume to be true without having investigated or researched alternative viewpoints or different frames of reference. What people consider to be true is typically what they inadvisedly understand and receive as doctrine.


The Pursuit of Truth

What we believe of others is regularly based on our perceptions of them and what we one-sidedly believe their plans are for us. What we see depends upon what we are mostly focusing on and listening out for.
What we concentrate on and watch out for generally depends upon the maturity of our thinking and how prepared we are to prioritise the pursuit of truth instead of mindlessly embracing our sporadic conclusions, perceptions and theories.
What we conceive and the maturity of our reasoning depends upon how aware we are of how accurately we tend to perceive our material reality, other people and things.
What we perceive and the accuracy of our perception defines what we understand, the condition of our thinking, and how reasonably we conduct ourselves publicly. At all times, we will consciously or unconsciously be responding to reality in actuality, or just to the sporadic ideas that inconsistently enter our minds.

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are──or, as we are conditioned to see it.”

– Stephen Covey


Your Self-Perception

What we believe of ourselves and our capabilities will determine what we apprehend to be right about our innate capacity to evolve, grow and resolve perplexing challenges. Our belief system is responsible for our confidence (or a lack thereof).
Internal perception tells us what is going on in our bodies; where our legs are, whether we are relaxing or standing up, whether we are feeling depressed, famished, exhausted, and so forth. External (or sensory) perception informs us about the world outside our physical bodies.
Idealism holds that reality is confined to mental qualities while scepticism tests our capacity to comprehend anything outside our minds. It’s certainly interesting to converse with people who stubbornly refuse to acknowledge the existence of any truth that transcends beyond their experiences to date.
Our perceptions give shape to and characterise our behaviour. When we refuse to be flexible or impressionable in our judgements, we close our minds down to possibility and sometimes even discerning what’s real.
Consequently, it’s more prudent to base the condition of our lives upon facts than on feelings, assumptions and opinions. Without laying down a strong foundation of truth in our lives, we stand to face much turmoil, concerns and trepidation.
Forming a perception starts with having conscious knowledge of the world around us. We develop our perception when we look at all of our experiences and preferences then decide what we’re going to believe.
Let us be careful not to become stuck in any one particular standpoint on life as doing so might leave us needlessly removed from others.


Kain Ramsay
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As an established teacher of personal and professional growth principles, and a champion of mental well-being, Kain Ramsay is regarded as one of the world’s foremost thought leaders of modern applied psychology.