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Do you have a victim mindset? How would you recognise it if you did? The power of a positive mindset is limitless in every way imaginable.
A victim mindset is one of irresponsibility and blame. In the eyes of a victim, everyone else and everything else is to blame for anything negative event that happens in the beholder’s life.
Someone with a victim mindset will generally expect the worst possible outcomes; all of the time! Victims crave the sympathy of other people and will seldom take responsibility for their destructive attitudes, actions and behaviours.
When people embrace this victim approach towards life, they are not in control of their environments, their actions and their emotional immaturity – but are governed by the destructive patterns of thinking that flow through their minds.
Those who believe they are victims often assume that responsibility for their lives lies in the hands of others people; parents, teachers, spouses, siblings, bosses or even God!
You will ofter hear those who believe themselves to be victims saying things like, “That person ‘made’ me do it”, “I ‘can’t’ do it”, “I ‘have’ to do what my boss tells me”. Irresponsible statements like these show individuals who feel helpless in the situations the find themselves in, and powerless to influence change in any way.
In his groundbreaking book, ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’, Victor Frankl survived the Nazi death camps in Auschwitz, Germany. While many people might call him a victim of circumstance, Victor defined freedom in a very intriguing way, “To choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, is to choose one’s way in life.”
Frankl also suggested, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear that we’re not good enough, are the primary concerns that run through most people’s lives. When left unchecked, these fears can become deeply ingrained beliefs that deem men and women helpless, seeing themselves as mere victims of circumstance, and unable to make the changes that they want to see in their lives.
What many victims don’t understand is that fear can serve us in a valuable way, it can help us to break through our frustrations to achieve the outcomes in life we genuinely hope for.
Powerful people understand that they have no choice in life other than to succeed. Powerful people know the cost of fear and disempowerment is stagnicity and unfulfillment. For powerful people, the victim mindset is nothing more than an unnecessary noose that holds people back from living exciting and rewarding lifestyles.
People without vision will perish. The Buddhists acknowledge this truth; the philosophers have acknowledged this truth and even the Bible states this truth on numerous occasions. Because without a vision for your future, you stand at risk of forever clinging onto your past.
Compelling life visions make for exciting life goals, and once you have a vision for your future, that’s bigger and better than merely serving yourself – achieving this goal will become an absolute must for you. Nothing else will matter. You’ll gladly make the sacrifices. Any excuses will go out the window, and you’ll know with absolute certainty that there’s no room left in your life for a victim mindset. Visions don’t come to fruition by themselves.
This is how many of the world’s most successful people leverage the fear in their lives. Opposed than having fear dominate your future and control you, accept that fear is the price you will have to pay if you want to accomplish anything meaningful in your future. Fear isn’t a real thing but is merely false expectations appearing to be real.
So, how do you adopt a more powerful mindset and more responsible perspective? How can you live in which fear becomes your ally and no longer not your enemy?
Here are four idea’s that will help you to break free from a victim mindset and re-take full responsibility for your future:
1. Develop A Growth Mindset
A positive mindset is a mindset of growth. The main reason why people give up on their passions in life is that they believe reaching their goals and aspirations is beyond their physical ability. The good news here is that all people have the ability to do all things, all of the time.
If you have a vision for your future that you are uncertain about how to fulfil, then develop yourself, learn a new skill, improve a current one and increase your value as a person. In life, our abilities aren’t static, but rather, are flexible with the capacity of being expanded. The only thing stopping you from fulfilling your goals is the strategy you haven’t learned yet. So go learn it!
2. Develop Your ‘Faith’ Muscle
The opposite of fear is faith. All fear bases itself upon the ‘worst case scenario’ expectations we have of the outcomes that we ‘may or may not’ experience in the future. Faith merely works in the opposite direction.
While many people associate faith with religion or religious beliefs, faith is, in fact, a verb (it’s a doing word). Faith and action go hand in hand – in the same way that fear and disempowerment go hand in hand. From this day forward, exercise your faith muscle and practice taking action in ‘faith’ of the best possible outcomes happening, instead of being fearful of the worst.
3. Ditch The Excuses
It’s easy to make excuses for why we won’t pursue our hopes, visions and goals aside. We make lame excuses such as: ‘there’s not enough time’, ‘I don’t have enough money’, ‘I’m not allowed to’, ‘I’m too busy’, etc. Many people hide behind their excuses as being valid reasons why they choose not to commit to the things they’re passionate about.
The problem with excuses is that they get us no-where. So remember that the next time an excuse passes through your mind – remember, you don’t have to do anything in life. Every decision is your choice, alongside our every action or inaction. No one else will fulfil your goals for you because no one else cares enough to, they’re all out there pursuing theirs own – so you might as well do the same!
4. Learn From Your Failures
You will fail. Failure’s a guaranteed part of the process. Anyone who accomplished anything significant in life will understand the importance of failing well. Failure offers us the crucial insights we need to corrects the ineffective ways that we approach our problems.
There is no better lesson we can learn in life than those which stem from failure.
Failure is one of the best teachers we will ever have, and there is nothing in the world that will develop our resilience better than the burn that comes from rejection. The good news is that if we use failure and rejection as valuable lessons to learn from, we can adapt and adjust our strategy, so that next time around, we’ll have an ‘upper-hand’ advantage that no one else does!
In his book, Man’s Search For Meaning, Victor Frankl couldn’t have put it better when he suggested “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
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